feeling really out of place
it just really hit me this morning how out of place i am starting to feel here as a pregnant girl. i know there are a few of us preggers and you all are so great!!!! But i just worry that because i am not losing any more and not going through that same struggle i just shouldn’t be here. i get that my life and focus are different now and i’m not in that place of trying to lose weight - the common goal. We are also all here to be healthier and that is still so true for me, but i feel like i could be annoying people with my chatter, when really life is grand and i don’t have that much left to lose and now i’m pregnant so i can’t lose and even have to gain…
it’s all very confusing and i’m just a little emotional now… totally fine, just emotional. i bet it’s the last 2 lousy nights of sleep plus this weekend is likely to be the “decide where to move” weekend assuming the job offer comes Friday.(for my husband)..maybe i just know that i don’t quite fit any where right now - it’s the unsettling feeling of maybe moving. it’s a lifelong thing for me, too, that sense of belonging being a bit elusive…okay, now i ramble.
anyway, buddies, i just want you to know that you all are truly super and i am not in the same boat any more but i still feel ya!
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Lets chalk it up to hormones hun
Now do you need a smack?
Didn’t know I could be so tough did ya?
Well I can.
Okay maybe a hug instead of a smack
Now what are you thinking? Of course you fit in here.
You are part of what makes this such a terrific place.
We are all here seeking support in our efforts for a healthier lifestyle.
You certainly fit into that category.
I know its a tough time right now with so much going on in your life.
Having mom visiting, lack of sleep, the big move decision not to mention all that goes along with being pregnant.
Hey you get a gold star in my books for the way you are holding it all together.
Hang in there Debbie
Things will get better you’ll see
Lori
Lori hit the nail right on the head! Don’t you ever think about leaving! You are one of my best buddies! Okay so maybe you don’t have to lose weight and of course now you are going to gain, but that doesn’t mean I don’t need your support or your friendship! Our play dates are exactly what I need sometimes so I will say again, DO NOT plan on going ANYWHERE (unless of course you plan on taking me with you!).
Wow…Lori and Anj couldn’t have said it any better. YOU ARE ONE OF MY BEST BUDDYS too1!! and I’d miss you soooooooooooooo much
I can understand what you are saying…but you are part of the BuddySlim family. Families like this are hard to split up.
You have been through so much and are still GOING through so much. My heart breaks for you with the move and all, but you are taking it all so well.
If you could get some decent sleep I know it would help. Debbie I deal with the same thing, insomia…hate it..wrecks everything. But your strong. You know what you need to do and whatever you decide is good with me. Maybe if your not as active here in blogs, you could keep in touch through e-mail?????????? I would just hate the thought of losing touch with you, you’ve been such an inspiration and good friend to me…Big Hugs for you today Debbie
there is a common demoniator here, and that is we are all struggling with food. what kind to eat, how much, why we eat stuff we know is bad. being prego doesn’t change that, you know?
and i, for one, LOVE hearing the prego stories!! it’s like foreshadowing for DW and I!
sleepless nights i know must be rough. especially when you have a lil one needing attention.
have you tried a prenatal massage or maybe some acupuncture?
Stop it Debbie!…Just cuz you are preggers doesn’t mean still aren’t struggling like we all are….Dont make me com up to Massachussets!
Hey little preggers don’t make me come to CAMBRIDGE!!! Of course we want and need you here. Remember buddyslim is more than just weight loss. We are one big happy family and encourage and support each other in all aspects of our lives…what would I do without you and AUSTIN? I told you to expect these hormonal changes girlfriend…you know the deal! See Lyssa and I will be there in a second and you know I work for AMTRAK and will hop a train quick fast and in a hurry. No more of this kind of talk…get some calgon and let it take you away lol Love ya! Angela
Girl, don’t you DARE leave!! We need you! I loved yesterday’s blog so much I printed it!! If you leave I will have to join Angela and come looking for you!
Well, that just makes NO sense Debbie. OF COURSE you belong here! Just because you are pregnant and not losing weight does not mean that you don’t have things to discuss with your friends does it? Of coure not… silly silly girl. I’m not losing weight and I’m talking more about not smoking that losing weight, and I have friends here that are just going to have to live with that. LOLOL
No seriously, all kidding aside, I hope you will stay. I would hate to think that just because your weight loss efforts have been put on hold for a bit, that someone wouldn’t want you here.
I for one would be upset if you left. You PROMISED me I can be Cyber Auntie. You can’t take that away from me now….. I’m stocking up on bubble gum and everything….
This site is about so much more than just losing weight… it’s about frienship, bonding, helping each other in all areas of our lives. I would think that being here would be especially helpful to someone who is pregnant. Where else could you get the information, support, and help you need to stay your healthiest nutrition-wise?
I’m going to chalk this up as just raging hormones and we’ll pretend you never even had this thought, k?
On September 27th, I BETTER get to see my cyber nephew or niece, got that?
Hugggggggggggggggs,
Shan
Thanks all! Lori’s first comment made me LOL! Am at gym now - about to do yoga- my head and heart are in a better place!
LOL ok I read Lori’s coment and at first I thought she said “Do you need a SNACK?” Gimme a break I wasnt wearing my glasses. LOL Anyway…yep I would sure chalk it up to hormones. Just in my humble opinion….This place…these people are like family. Anyone thinking you dont belong here because you are pregnant is like me kicking my sister in law out of the family because she is pregnant. It just aint gonna happen!
We all love you and your ramblings..its so cute 
Just because you don’t need to lose weight right now doesn’t mean that you need to lose friends.
Aww we love ya girl - don’t you dare go anywhere
Okay along w/ the 12 other comments…Are you friggin crazy? I’d be so sad if you weren’t here!!! You are such an inspiration! I think of you when I do my grocery shopping because I’m so jealous of the way you eat! Now if you weren’t here, I wouldn’t be able to see your eats!!! Trust me, you’re no way out of place or annoying anyone. Preggers or not, we love you!
Debbie…if I know one thing, is that you belong here, with us. You are a wonderful buddy and preggers or not, we love you just the same. Well, I shouldn’t speak for everyone, but judging from the responses you have gotten…we all love you just the same. So….put on a happy face and take a bubble bath…and know that this is just the crazy hormones talking!
Come on now Debbie you know everyone of us buddies feel like we are the fairy godmothers of your baby. You cant just cut us out of your life like that we love you and baby tooooo much. Its going to be so much fun watching your weight chart go up just like its suppose to! -Dee
I am not losing weight either but yes, I am staying here, and having fun, and learning, and sharing, and doing my best to be healthy.
Sounds familiar? You can join me in a non-losing weight, healthy team. Along with Shanna and others.
Ahhh what a wonderful blog full of heart. I think you are great Debbie and you are right, this site is about health. You belong even if you do not feel it at a particular moment. Just know that many, ME, think the world of you and what you have done here.
You are always cheering others and I say, do not forget to see your own special qualities. And if you forget or do not feel so ideal, there is always someone here to tell you to look deeper. OR, “HELLO, YOU ROCK!”
Well, ya do!
Take care… *hugs*